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The Grieving Process: A Daughter and Denial

Denial makes things a blur.  I know that I plunged myself to those depths of unfeeling because I wanted to survive, and on good days, I can forgive myself for it.  I must have been there for over a year, when I could smell a musty, old dream of college – long forgotten in the

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The Mathematics of Grief; a Disguised Blessing

I know I’m more than half right about this, so please bear with me. In mathematics there’s a concept called proportionality. Directly portortional means that if you travel faster, you’ll go farther. Inversely proportional means that the more people you have digging a ditch, the  sooner it will be done.  Grief is, for most of

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Loss of Father: An AfterTalk Letter on the Anniversary of my Father’s Death

Dad, The summer after you died, I went through the attic.  I was not looking for your things.  Honestly, I was looking for vintage clothes from Mom’s old wardrobe.  I’m not ashamed of that, because the skeletal mounds of your things around the house were suffocating.  Shirts and pants and underwear, and Mom couldn’t get rid of them,

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Talking to Children About Death: A Personal Journey and a Chance for You to Help Others

I remember being told that the grieving process was a journey.  It would hit me at different times, in unexpected moments and in unanticipated ways.  When I was nine years old and my sister suddenly passed away, I think I processed grief similarly to many other children.  I was not able to understand the medical

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The Grief Narrative: My Sob Story

Dear Larry,  Sorry it took so long to write this, but I think finally realized the true point of AfterTalk.  I can’t quite describe it, but writing this post brought me to a place I had always been afraid to go, to thoughts that I didn’t want to confess to even the abyss of my

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