Category Archives: Remembrance

A Memorial of Service–Remembering an Extraordinary Man

I attended a memorial service last week for a man who lived an extraordinary life cut short by a fatal brain cancer at 75. It was at the same time a memorial service and a memorial of service. His name is—and I say ‘is’ not ‘was’ –because it was clear by the remarks of each

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Grieving on Holocaust Remembrance Day

When I was a young boy in Brooklyn in the early 1950s, I vividly recall a man on the block rolling up his sleeve and showing me a blue tattoo of a numbers running up his forearm.The meaning of this had to be explained to me. I was perhaps five years old, but it left

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The Mathematics of Grief; a Disguised Blessing

I know I’m more than half right about this, so please bear with me. In mathematics there’s a concept called proportionality. Directly portortional means that if you travel faster, you’ll go farther. Inversely proportional means that the more people you have digging a ditch, the  sooner it will be done.  Grief is, for most of

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Grieving for My Mother: Part Two

After they took my mother to the funeral home, my brother, his significant other, Susan, and I headed back to the hotel in Delray Beach. It was after ten o’clock and almost everything was closed. We stumbled into Boston’s near the beach and convinced them to serve us. A live blues band made it hard

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Loss of Father: An AfterTalk Letter on the Anniversary of my Father’s Death

Dad, The summer after you died, I went through the attic.  I was not looking for your things.  Honestly, I was looking for vintage clothes from Mom’s old wardrobe.  I’m not ashamed of that, because the skeletal mounds of your things around the house were suffocating.  Shirts and pants and underwear, and Mom couldn’t get rid of them,

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