Category Archives: Grieving

A Memorial of Service–Remembering an Extraordinary Man

I attended a memorial service last week for a man who lived an extraordinary life cut short by a fatal brain cancer at 75. It was at the same time a memorial service and a memorial of service. His name is—and I say ‘is’ not ‘was’ –because it was clear by the remarks of each

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Daughters Grieving Loss of Father: A Sibling Story

My younger sister Jolie and I are five years apart.  We were playmates from the beginning, and it seems that her maturity accelerated to keep up with mine.  I got a cellphone after years of waiting, and the next week she got a cellphone.  When it comes to a Verizon Wireless family package, five years

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The Grieving Process: A Daughter and Denial

Denial makes things a blur.  I know that I plunged myself to those depths of unfeeling because I wanted to survive, and on good days, I can forgive myself for it.  I must have been there for over a year, when I could smell a musty, old dream of college – long forgotten in the

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Grieving on Holocaust Remembrance Day

When I was a young boy in Brooklyn in the early 1950s, I vividly recall a man on the block rolling up his sleeve and showing me a blue tattoo of a numbers running up his forearm.The meaning of this had to be explained to me. I was perhaps five years old, but it left

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Grief Counseling at its Best: How ADEC Can Help

Lisa and I just returned from the annual meeting of ADEC, the Association for Death Education and Counseling. This was our first time, and we were enormously impressed. ADEC is an international, professional organization dedicated to promoting excellence and recognizing diversity in death education, care of the dying, grief counseling and research in thanatology. Based on quality research,

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