Tag Archives: question from a caregiver

A Father’s Death: Struggling with the “what ifs?”

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My father had schizophrenia and I am so proud of how he managed his illness. He will continue to be an inspiration to me and I do direct my son, who struggles with mental illness, to grandpa’s example. My father found that walking cleared his thoughts and decreased the symptoms of depression.

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Caregiver’s Guilt and Regret

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife has been gone for several months, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about her and focus on my life now.  It’s not her death that troubles me as much as her life in her final couple of years.  She had increasing dementia at the end, and I frequently misunderstood

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My 26 year old son died…holding on to good memories

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My 26 year old son died 7 years ago after a prolonged battle with a malignant brain tumor. I was his caretaker. He was my first child and my only son. Our relationship was magnificent. I can’t get a grip on the good memories. I am constantly thrown into a grand mal seizure or

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After a Long Battle with Cancer

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My only sister died three years ago after a long battle with cancer during which I was a primary caregiver. She was like a second mother to me since she was sixteen years older than me, and I cannot say what a profound affect her loss has had on my life. Since she died,

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A therapist experiences heavy losses…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Following a succession of family deaths over an 18 month period, compounded by a difficult move to another part of the country for my husband’s work, I find myself struggling emotionally with my career as a psychologist.  Feeling overwhelmed, I took time off from my practice, and now have to start again

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