What is the Meaning of Life?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have just one question, but it is a big one. In your opinion, what is the meaning of life? Nicolae Dear Nicolae, I’m a practicing psychologist who works alongside people who are struggling with deeply unwelcome changes in their lives–the breakdown of intimate relationships, the loss of career or meaningful work,

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Caregiver’s Guilt and Regret

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife has been gone for several months, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about her and focus on my life now.  It’s not her death that troubles me as much as her life in her final couple of years.  She had increasing dementia at the end, and I frequently misunderstood

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My brother died: cancer leading to suicide

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My brother died a few months ago from suicide.  He shot himself in his bed after fighting cancer for two years.  The last time I saw him he looked like a skeleton, and the police said he was so dehydrated that there was almost no blood on the sheets.  I’ve been able to

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My 26 year old son died…holding on to good memories

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My 26 year old son died 7 years ago after a prolonged battle with a malignant brain tumor. I was his caretaker. He was my first child and my only son. Our relationship was magnificent. I can’t get a grip on the good memories. I am constantly thrown into a grand mal seizure or

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After a Long Battle with Cancer

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My only sister died three years ago after a long battle with cancer during which I was a primary caregiver. She was like a second mother to me since she was sixteen years older than me, and I cannot say what a profound affect her loss has had on my life. Since she died,

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I Lost My Daughter PART 2

Editor: Mary Jane Hurley Brant is a psychotherapist and author specializing in grief, loss, and serious illness. Her website is http://www.maryjanehurleybrant.com/. Last week she posted a comment on Dr. Neimeyer’s answer to a mother who had lost a 30-year-old daughter [here’s the link: http://www.aftertalk.com/ask-dr-neimeyer/index.php/485/] This week Dr. Neimeyer chose to comment on Ms. Brant’s post.

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The Death of Prince: Grieving for Celebrities

  Dear Dr. Neimeyer, The death of Prince raises several interesting questions about grief following the death of a celebrity.  Is it possible to truly grieve for someone you’ve never met personally? So many posts on Facebook state that people are “gutted,” “heartbroken”, “devastated” in the wake of this very public loss.  As with the

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