Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have just one question, but it is a big one. In your opinion, what is the meaning of life? Nicolae Dear Nicolae, I’m a practicing psychologist who works alongside people who are struggling with deeply unwelcome changes in their lives–the breakdown of intimate relationships, the loss of career or meaningful work,
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife has been gone for several months, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about her and focus on my life now. It’s not her death that troubles me as much as her life in her final couple of years. She had increasing dementia at the end, and I frequently misunderstood
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My brother died a few months ago from suicide. He shot himself in his bed after fighting cancer for two years. The last time I saw him he looked like a skeleton, and the police said he was so dehydrated that there was almost no blood on the sheets. I’ve been able to
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My 26 year old son died 7 years ago after a prolonged battle with a malignant brain tumor. I was his caretaker. He was my first child and my only son. Our relationship was magnificent. I can’t get a grip on the good memories. I am constantly thrown into a grand mal seizure or
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My only sister died three years ago after a long battle with cancer during which I was a primary caregiver. She was like a second mother to me since she was sixteen years older than me, and I cannot say what a profound affect her loss has had on my life. Since she died,
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my son to suicide, and I am struggling with the urge to join him. I try to stay here for my beautiful granddaughter that he left for me to enjoy. There are days that it is almost like living that day over again and that is when I struggle the
Dear. Dr. Neimeyer, Do you think that because I found my dad’s body a few hours after a normal visit that could be a reason I’m having such a difficult time now with his death? Today is five months and I can’t stop crying. I lost my dad on Father’s Day and it was so unexpected.
Editor: Mary Jane Hurley Brant is a psychotherapist and author specializing in grief, loss, and serious illness. Her website is http://www.maryjanehurleybrant.com/. Last week she posted a comment on Dr. Neimeyer’s answer to a mother who had lost a 30-year-old daughter [here’s the link: http://www.aftertalk.com/ask-dr-neimeyer/index.php/485/] This week Dr. Neimeyer chose to comment on Ms. Brant’s post.
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, The death of Prince raises several interesting questions about grief following the death of a celebrity. Is it possible to truly grieve for someone you’ve never met personally? So many posts on Facebook state that people are “gutted,” “heartbroken”, “devastated” in the wake of this very public loss. As with the
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, It’s been several years this February that I lost my daughter; she was only 30 years old. I still can’t get past the grief; it consumes me every day. I’m on anti-depressants but it doesn’t seem to help, and its affecting my daily life to the point that I can no longer work