I Lost My Older Brother… Grieving and Depression

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my older brother just a few weeks ago. I feel so sad and depressed. Plus I have major depression and an anxiety disorder, panic disorder too. Could losing my brother make me have lapse back into a deep depression again? -Phoebe Dear Phoebe, The short answer to your question is “Yes,

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Mom has turned bedroom into a shrine to my departed father…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is regarding my mother.   We lost my father very unexpectedly this past summer, and she is having a very hard time with his loss, as we all are.  My question is this: Is it good for her to have her bedroom looking like a shrine to him, so that whenever

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Question from a Hospice Social Worker about Therapeutic Triage: predicting complicated grief

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a social worker with a large hospice bereavement center that offers community support services for grieving people of all kinds, not only surviving family members after a loved one dies in our home care or residential facility.  But recently we’ve been stretched thin in our outreach and response services, and

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A Widow’s Complicated Grief Rituals

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a therapist who is seeing a woman who lives alone and without children, for complicated grief, and one of the people for whom she is grieving is her husband.  They were married 4 years before he died 19 years ago,  Every year on their anniversary, she has a very complicated ritual to

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What do you say to parents of a deceased newborn?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Aside from saying “sorry for your loss” what else could you say to parents whose premature baby died three weeks old in the hospital?  I don’t want to say the wrong thing. Lisa Dear Lisa, The way you phrase your question is helpful, because although there are few clear rules about what one should

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