Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


I am losing the final piece of him

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away nearly a dozen years ago and I have been receiving his Social Security Benefits since that time. On my birthday next Spring I will be taking my own Social Security.  My question is:  Why do I feel so apprehensive about taking mine and giving up my husband’s?  This is the

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Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Confronting rather than avoiding my grief

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve been reading your column for some time now, and trying to follow your advice about confronting rather than avoiding my grief through writing to my dear wife, Dorothy, who meant the world to me before her death two months ago.  We did just about everything together for decades, and even the

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Ambiguous Losses: a brother’s cancer diagnosis

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Five years ago my younger brother, Eric, was diagnosed with cancer, though he was only 15 at the time.  Our life as a family seemed to change overnight, as we all were faced with the fear of what this might mean, and my parents became totally absorbed in his chemotherapy, hospitalizations, and

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Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts