Three suggestions for dealing with insensitive consolations

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband, Joseph, has been gone less than a year, and I can’t believe the stupid things people say to me, trying to make me “feel better.”  “Time heals all wounds–you just need to stay busy,” “You’ve got to look on the bright side; at least you had him all these years,”

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My Daughter was Murdered

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My daughter was murdered by the father of her children. Her children at the time were a toddler and an infant. It’s now seven years later. My daughter was just 21 years old. I had to go get my granddaughter’s things out of the apartment she was murdered in, so it was

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Grieving and the Events in Paris

Dear Dr. Niemeyer, I feel I am grieving about the horrific terror in Paris. I am grieving about the lives lost, and the lives changed.The grief I feel about this is that it is not the first time, and probably won’t be the last. How do I insulate myself and move on from these feelings knowing terror

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Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts


Send Comfort, Flowers and Gifts