Category Archives: Tragic Loss

Fearing the loss of a child

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Firstly, thank you for providing your expertise online. It has helped me since losing one of my twin sons in his late 20s in a motorcycle accident not long ago. This time has been filled with not only grief for the loss of my very close son, but also worry for his twin brother  who witnessed

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Tragic death of a Mother at another’s hand

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My therapist showed me your website and I’m grateful for her suggestion to join and get involved here. My mother was killed in 2012 and I’m still struggling very much with what I’m told is called complicated grief. I was very very close to my mum, who was my best friend, my

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Accidental drug overdose took our daughter

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife and I lost our 23- year-old daughter to an accidental drug overdose just over one year ago, and of course we have been devastated by the loss. Each of us has coped in our own way, and we continue to function in practical terms, although the early months were pretty

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I Lost My Son to a Drug Overdose

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my son five years ago to a drug overdose. l battled with him for several years trying to break his addiction. He died right before his 28 birthday. I feel like I lost everything when I lost him. He was my baby. I have three other children and numerous grandchildren, but the kids say I’m

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“My son took his own life…”

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My 17 year old son took his own life not even a month ago. I find I can’t even type the details. He used a shotgun in our basement. Our whole family  found him shortly afterwards. I recently read about “atypical depression” which very well described Edward’s condition. He was doing well.

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My Daughter was Murdered

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My daughter was murdered by the father of her children. Her children at the time were a toddler and an infant. It’s now seven years later. My daughter was just 21 years old. I had to go get my granddaughter’s things out of the apartment she was murdered in, so it was

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Grieving and the Events in Paris

Dear Dr. Niemeyer, I feel I am grieving about the horrific terror in Paris. I am grieving about the lives lost, and the lives changed.The grief I feel about this is that it is not the first time, and probably won’t be the last. How do I insulate myself and move on from these feelings knowing terror

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Spiritual Struggle in Bereavement

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, In my practice I have encountered some clients who have experienced a significant loss in the past (e.g., loss of a parent when they were teenagers), which obviously altered their world views. They made sense of their losses by coming to the conclusion that bad things can happen randomly in this world,

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