Category Archives: Question about Grief Counseling

Hospice Bereavement Coordinator asks about reaching out…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is related to the bulk of my role as a hospice bereavement coordinator, which is to reach out via telephone to identified bereaved family members of our hospice patients after the patient has passed.  The bereavement model employed is a “clean break” model, meaning the team that cared for the family prior

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Question from a Hospice Social Worker about Therapeutic Triage: predicting complicated grief

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a social worker with a large hospice bereavement center that offers community support services for grieving people of all kinds, not only surviving family members after a loved one dies in our home care or residential facility.  But recently we’ve been stretched thin in our outreach and response services, and

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My Wonderful Husband Passed Away…

Dr. Neimeyer, My wonderful husband passed away six months ago. It was very unexpected and he was the love of my life. I’m just having a hard time adjusting without him. He was my rock. Sabrina Dear Sabrina, When we lose an intimate life companion like your husband, we feel displaced, uprooted, without the grounding

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What is the Meaning of Life?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I have just one question, but it is a big one. In your opinion, what is the meaning of life? Nicolae Dear Nicolae, I’m a practicing psychologist who works alongside people who are struggling with deeply unwelcome changes in their lives–the breakdown of intimate relationships, the loss of career or meaningful work,

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How do you get over guilt of an abortion?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, How do you get over the guilt of an abortion? Marissa Dear Marissa, Although abortion under carefully stipulated conditions is legal in the United States, there is obviously great controversy over its morality. In the highly politicized climate of extreme opinions, the polemical discourse that divides right to life and freedom of

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Grief Therapist asks about using AfterTalk

Dear. Dr. Neimeyer– I’m a grief therapist who works frequently with clients who have had difficult losses–sometimes of life partners, sometimes of parents, sometimes of children.  And I’ve been fascinated by AfterTalk ever since I encountered it, as many of my clients are eager to restore a sense of connection and communication with those they

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Grief Therapy in the Emergency Room

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I know from you writings and my own experience as a social worker in other settings that people contending with a traumatic loss benefit from having a safe space to slowly and fully tell the story of their loved one’s death, and reflect on its meaning for their lives. This can be

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Anticipatory grief, when a loved one is dying

Dealing with Anticipatory Grief Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is about anticipatory grief, the distress that family members can feel when a loved one is receiving end-of-life care. I work in a palliative care unit of a large hospital, and we often have families who are overwhelmed with the reality of the patient’s impending death,

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Five Principles for Managing Grief in the New Year

Dear Dr. Neimeyer– My husband died just over a year ago, so on January 1st I will start my second year without him, and I am not looking forward to it.  It’s not that I am immobilized by grief, as I have gotten better across the months in that department, and actually feel pretty good

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Spiritual Struggle in Bereavement

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, In my practice I have encountered some clients who have experienced a significant loss in the past (e.g., loss of a parent when they were teenagers), which obviously altered their world views. They made sense of their losses by coming to the conclusion that bad things can happen randomly in this world,

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