Category Archives: Loss of a Spouse

I am losing the final piece of him

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away nearly a dozen years ago and I have been receiving his Social Security Benefits since that time. On my birthday next Spring I will be taking my own Social Security.  My question is:  Why do I feel so apprehensive about taking mine and giving up my husband’s?  This is the

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Grieving a wife’s death from cancer

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife passed away on last month from cancer. We knew it was going to happen someday but we were utterly floored by the speed with which she went downhill. I know she is in a beautiful place with the Lord. I am trying very hard to deal with the emotions from

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My Wonderful Husband Passed Away…

Dr. Neimeyer, My wonderful husband passed away six months ago. It was very unexpected and he was the love of my life. I’m just having a hard time adjusting without him. He was my rock. Sabrina Dear Sabrina, When we lose an intimate life companion like your husband, we feel displaced, uprooted, without the grounding

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Caregiver’s Guilt and Regret

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife has been gone for several months, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about her and focus on my life now.  It’s not her death that troubles me as much as her life in her final couple of years.  She had increasing dementia at the end, and I frequently misunderstood

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Mourning a Former Spouse: Disenfranchised Grief

Mourning a Former Spouse Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My ex-husband and I were married for 25 years, together 28. We raised four children together. He was charming, sociable, affectionate, intelligent and silly. We enjoyed numerous good times. Toward the end, however, he became abusive and I made excuses to stay. After he took out his anger

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