Category Archives: Loss of a Loved One

Hospice Bereavement Coordinator asks about reaching out…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is related to the bulk of my role as a hospice bereavement coordinator, which is to reach out via telephone to identified bereaved family members of our hospice patients after the patient has passed.  The bereavement model employed is a “clean break” model, meaning the team that cared for the family prior

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I’ve lost all my parents and siblings

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’ve lost all my parents and siblings.  Each one I’ve grieved and tried to move on, but now that I’ve lost my last remaining family member, my sister, five weeks ago, why do I feel like I’m grieving for them all now? I’ve never felt so lost and alone now that I’ve lost

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Sudden Death of a Husband

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband to a sudden death which involved a vehicle accident and he had suffered a pulmonary embolism at the age of 59. This happened on over a year ago just days before our 34th anniversary. I began reading many books articles on sudden death and all the emotions, phases, you will most likely

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Caregiver’s Guilt and Regret

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife has been gone for several months, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about her and focus on my life now.  It’s not her death that troubles me as much as her life in her final couple of years.  She had increasing dementia at the end, and I frequently misunderstood

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My 26 year old son died…holding on to good memories

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My 26 year old son died 7 years ago after a prolonged battle with a malignant brain tumor. I was his caretaker. He was my first child and my only son. Our relationship was magnificent. I can’t get a grip on the good memories. I am constantly thrown into a grand mal seizure or

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Anticipatory grief, when a loved one is dying

Dealing with Anticipatory Grief Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is about anticipatory grief, the distress that family members can feel when a loved one is receiving end-of-life care. I work in a palliative care unit of a large hospital, and we often have families who are overwhelmed with the reality of the patient’s impending death,

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