Category Archives: Loss of a husband

I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago while we were getting ready for his grandmother’s funeral. There were so many unanswered questions, as our daughter was only a year old and she is  now nearing 30. But my question is why I still have my moments of tears and

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I am losing the final piece of him

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away nearly a dozen years ago and I have been receiving his Social Security Benefits since that time. On my birthday next Spring I will be taking my own Social Security.  My question is:  Why do I feel so apprehensive about taking mine and giving up my husband’s?  This is the

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Mom has turned bedroom into a shrine to my departed father…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My question is regarding my mother.   We lost my father very unexpectedly this past summer, and she is having a very hard time with his loss, as we all are.  My question is this: Is it good for her to have her bedroom looking like a shrine to him, so that whenever

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A Widow’s Complicated Grief Rituals

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I am a therapist who is seeing a woman who lives alone and without children, for complicated grief, and one of the people for whom she is grieving is her husband.  They were married 4 years before he died 19 years ago,  Every year on their anniversary, she has a very complicated ritual to

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Sudden Death of a Husband

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband to a sudden death which involved a vehicle accident and he had suffered a pulmonary embolism at the age of 59. This happened on over a year ago just days before our 34th anniversary. I began reading many books articles on sudden death and all the emotions, phases, you will most likely

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My Wonderful Husband Passed Away…

Dr. Neimeyer, My wonderful husband passed away six months ago. It was very unexpected and he was the love of my life. I’m just having a hard time adjusting without him. He was my rock. Sabrina Dear Sabrina, When we lose an intimate life companion like your husband, we feel displaced, uprooted, without the grounding

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