Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I didn’t want to post this because I don’t want my loved ones to know the guilt I feel about my mother’s passing. But before my mom passed last year I avoided her calls as my sister said she was drinking a lot. We lived in different states. And she was drunk
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Why do I feel guilty when I laugh or have fun, knowing my daughter isn’t here, and I shouldn’t be having fun? Dolores Dear Dolores– There is an unwritten code in our culture–one that is an explicit prescription in many world cultures–that presumes that we honor the dead when we
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my mother to a terminal disease last year–a horrible disease, and she was in a horrible shape when she passed. The stress of caring for her got to me sometimes, and although I gave her everything she needed, sometimes it was not done with a loving heart. So I have
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband of 46 years 19 months ago. I married him when I was 19, so I went from my parents’ home to being married. I have never been alone. There is sexual abuse that happened to me, and I always knew that if I had not married my wonderful,
Dr. Neimeyer, While grieving of a dear one is very personal, how would you suggest to stop my friends who keep doing different things to interrupt me during the time that I want to be stay alone? As obvious as it is, I need my time to feel sad, my time to internalize being left
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Why is it so hard? I lost my sister in the spring of 2013, then my husband a month later, then my son two months later 2013. It’s been a losing battle I just don’t know how to handle this. Phyllis Dear Phyllis– When a person has a litany of
Dear Dr Neimeyer, My husband passed away a few years ago when my children were very young. I was fortunate enough to find a wonderful man and remarry. He has embraced ‘our’ children as if they were his own. My problem is that I am very conflicted. I want my children to grow up knowing
Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife passed away two years ago. We were both in our middle 60s. I want to resume dating, but female friends tell me I need to remove all traces of my wife from the apartment before I do so. I have not been able to part with anything since she died.