Category Archives: Death of A Child

My Daughter Took Her Own Life

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My only child, my 16 year old daughter, took her own life just one month ago.  She showed no signs at all.  Straight A student, worked as cashier part time, saving money for college.  She just finished her College Boards and got an amazing score.  I know this wasn’t planned–she had placed orders

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Therapist question about a mother who lost a son and is now experiencing complicated grief.

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m a family therapist who has been working with a couple who have lost a young adult son in a drowning accident in a distant country, and in which the mother has remained in a deep, unshakeable grief for over three years, for two of which I have been working with her and her

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…my friend’s 16 year old daughter committed suicide…

Dr. Neimeyer, Last week, my friend’s 16 year old daughter committed suicide. As far as what is known, there is nothing that indicates the “why”. As I read through your materials, I have learned that we try to bring an understanding to the un-understandable and it eats at us. He and his ex-wife divorced a

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Grief and Depression

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Following the death of my 22 year old daughter of a drug overdose two years ago, I of course have struggled with my grief, but also had two very distinct periods of depression, each approximately 6 months long, filled with classic symptoms of lack of energy to do anything, loss of interest

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Complicated Grief after multiple losses, now cut off from the world…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a director of a bereavement center myself, I am very concerned about a friend. Her mother died about 4 years ago. Her father died about 8 months ago. Then, her son, as far as we know, died of an accidental overdose about one month after her father. The truth is it

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What do you say to parents of a deceased newborn?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Aside from saying “sorry for your loss” what else could you say to parents whose premature baby died three weeks old in the hospital?  I don’t want to say the wrong thing. Lisa Dear Lisa, The way you phrase your question is helpful, because although there are few clear rules about what one should

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Fearing the loss of a child

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Firstly, thank you for providing your expertise online. It has helped me since losing one of my twin sons in his late 20s in a motorcycle accident not long ago. This time has been filled with not only grief for the loss of my very close son, but also worry for his twin brother  who witnessed

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