Category Archives: Caregiving issues

A Father’s Death: Struggling with the “what ifs?”

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My father had schizophrenia and I am so proud of how he managed his illness. He will continue to be an inspiration to me and I do direct my son, who struggles with mental illness, to grandpa’s example. My father found that walking cleared his thoughts and decreased the symptoms of depression.

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Anticipatory Grieving: mourning the living

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, Your recent reply to the woman widowed over 25 years ago resonated with me, even though my husband is still alive.  I am a member of the Well Spouse Association, a national nonprofit organization which provides peer support to those caring for chronically ill or disabled spouses. “Chronic sorrow”…”bleaching out of emotions”…”surviving but not thriving”… “sense of not fitting

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Caregiver’s Guilt and Regret

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife has been gone for several months, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about her and focus on my life now.  It’s not her death that troubles me as much as her life in her final couple of years.  She had increasing dementia at the end, and I frequently misunderstood

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