Category Archives: Accidental Death

My teenage son was electrocuted…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My teenage son was electrocuted at home accidentally almost 20 years ago.  My counselor is not happy with my saying he was killed.  I know the difference because about three decades ago, another toddler son  died from a cerebral aneurysm , so in my eyes one died and one was killed and to me

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Therapist question about a mother who lost a son and is now experiencing complicated grief.

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I’m a family therapist who has been working with a couple who have lost a young adult son in a drowning accident in a distant country, and in which the mother has remained in a deep, unshakeable grief for over three years, for two of which I have been working with her and her

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Deadly car accident takes two daughters

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I was recently in a deadly car accident that took the lives of my two beautiful, funny, and loving baby girls, ages 6 and 8. The accident also resulted in my surviving teenage year old daughter being a paraplegic, and my husband having a TBI, and several fractures in his face, arm, leg

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I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband in an accident over 25 years ago while we were getting ready for his grandmother’s funeral. There were so many unanswered questions, as our daughter was only a year old and she is  now nearing 30. But my question is why I still have my moments of tears and

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Traumatic images of their loved one’s dying

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As a therapist I often work with people who suffer from traumatic images of their loved one’s dying, even when these result from a difficult death in the hospital. Can you comment on how to help the bereaved who are struggling with difficult images and memories? How does one work through traumatic

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Tragic death of a Mother at another’s hand

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My therapist showed me your website and I’m grateful for her suggestion to join and get involved here. My mother was killed in 2012 and I’m still struggling very much with what I’m told is called complicated grief. I was very very close to my mum, who was my best friend, my

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Sudden Death of a Husband

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my husband to a sudden death which involved a vehicle accident and he had suffered a pulmonary embolism at the age of 59. This happened on over a year ago just days before our 34th anniversary. I began reading many books articles on sudden death and all the emotions, phases, you will most likely

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Death of a Teenage Daughter

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My teenage daughter Daniella died in a car accident almost two years ago, and even though I have been able to go on raising my other two children and working in my office job, I continue to feel a great deal of grief and also some irrational guilt about her death, because

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Accidental drug overdose took our daughter

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife and I lost our 23- year-old daughter to an accidental drug overdose just over one year ago, and of course we have been devastated by the loss. Each of us has coped in our own way, and we continue to function in practical terms, although the early months were pretty

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Tragic Accident Took Our Daughter

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As you can imagine, my husband and I have been struggling since our only child, our 19 year old daughter, Mary, was killed in a tragic accident–automotive–over a year ago. Recently I started seeing a therapist, who is wonderful, wise and empathetic. I can tell that my husband is hurting as much as

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