Author Archives: Dr. Robert Neimeyer

Accidental drug overdose took our daughter

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My wife and I lost our 23- year-old daughter to an accidental drug overdose just over one year ago, and of course we have been devastated by the loss. Each of us has coped in our own way, and we continue to function in practical terms, although the early months were pretty

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I Lost My Son to a Drug Overdose

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I lost my son five years ago to a drug overdose. l battled with him for several years trying to break his addiction. He died right before his 28 birthday. I feel like I lost everything when I lost him. He was my baby. I have three other children and numerous grandchildren, but the kids say I’m

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How do you get over guilt of an abortion?

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, How do you get over the guilt of an abortion? Marissa Dear Marissa, Although abortion under carefully stipulated conditions is legal in the United States, there is obviously great controversy over its morality. In the highly politicized climate of extreme opinions, the polemical discourse that divides right to life and freedom of

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Tragic Accident Took Our Daughter

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, As you can imagine, my husband and I have been struggling since our only child, our 19 year old daughter, Mary, was killed in a tragic accident–automotive–over a year ago. Recently I started seeing a therapist, who is wonderful, wise and empathetic. I can tell that my husband is hurting as much as

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Grief Therapist asks about using AfterTalk

Dear. Dr. Neimeyer– I’m a grief therapist who works frequently with clients who have had difficult losses–sometimes of life partners, sometimes of parents, sometimes of children.  And I’ve been fascinated by AfterTalk ever since I encountered it, as many of my clients are eager to restore a sense of connection and communication with those they

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My husband passed away…

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, My husband passed away in five years ago. It was right before our oldest son graduated from high school and our youngest son was eight. My oldest son graduated  with a degree in electrical engineering last year. My oldest son, I believe bottled up everything; he won’t even talk to me or his

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Grief Therapy in the Emergency Room

Dear Dr. Neimeyer, I know from you writings and my own experience as a social worker in other settings that people contending with a traumatic loss benefit from having a safe space to slowly and fully tell the story of their loved one’s death, and reflect on its meaning for their lives. This can be

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Regret at the Death of a Friend

Hi Dr. Neimeyer, Please help, as I am not sure what to do. Several years ago I terminated a friendship. Our last contact was ugly, and her husband witnessed my reprehensible behavior. Efforts to clean things up didn’t go well, and I now take full responsibility. While I got some therapy to explore why I acted badly

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